Year: 2013

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Relationships

I’m Shocked, But I Shouldn’t Be

When you see someone’s bad behavior, do your eyes ever pop out of your head or your jaw hit the floor? Do you ever just gape in astonished awe due to being shocked that they could do such a thing?a shocked smiley who has seen something unbelievable
Though I have seen a lot, I find I can still be shocked by peoples’ bad behavior. But maybe I shouldn’t be. Or at least, maybe I need to learn to accept people for who they are, instead of judging them so harshly. Near the end of the book Christy, these paragraphs grabbed my attention because I have found that I have needed to learn these exact same things about accepting others:

“I saw for the first time that we have to accept people the way they are and not be shocked about anything. In my idealism, that had been hard for me. I had not understood Miss Alice’s acceptance of the mountain people and had often been frustrated, sometimes even infuriated, by her unwillingness to push harder for changes.

“I now understood that the reason we have to accept other people is simply because God receives us just the way we are.

“I had never thought it should be that way. Had I been doing it, I would have arranged gradations of acceptability according to how bad or how good we were – or how hard we have tried. But Miss Alice had helped me to see that the Power who lovingly rules over our aching world has quite a different idea: He persists in receiving us and loving us all even when we reject Him and refuse to have anything to do with Him, even when we boast about our little intellects and insist that He does not exist.”

Oh the love of God. He isn’t shocked by my bad behavior. Jesus said that He already knew what was within a man! While not being shocked by my sin, He still hates my sin. And yet, He still loves me. How can I be so idealistic and hard on others, refusing to accept them and love them because of their bad behavior – especially when I am so loved even though I so often display unlovable behaviors and attitudes?

The truth is that people without Christ cannot expect to live as if they have embraced His teachings. It is an unreasonable expectation for us who follow Christ to expect people who do not know Jesus to embrace His teachings. So instead of us getting angry at the people who don’t yet know Christ for not embracing our same beliefs, let us be people of compassion and show them the benefits and joy of knowing Christ and His abundant life. That will be more beneficial to them than our anger and refusal to offer friendship.

It is time for me to be accepting and loving of everyone around me. Even if I don’t agree with their behaviors or attitudes, I can still love them and care for them, hoping to love them to a relationship with Christ and a life transformation.

— brian rushing

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Christian Living

The Yo-Yo of Seeking Approval

“I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone-it, people like me!” Do you remember the Saturday Night Live character who told us to say this in the mirror each day? We might want to be good and smart, but doggone-it, even more so we want people to like us. But there is a problem if we live our lives seeking approval and using it as our guide for happiness.

wooden yo-yo to represent the ups and downs of seeking the approval of others
photo credit: xuliánconx

Gordon MacDonald tells us of the tragic consequences: “Since people’s approval inevitably comes and goes, increases and evaporates, motivation through approval becomes a yo-yo of emotions. It’s one of the first reasons men and women quit spiritual leadership. No one is clapping anymore.”

A great contrast we find in the Bible to a person seeking others’ approval is John the Baptist. John “watched a formerly approving crowd leave him to follow Jesus. His reaction? ‘I must decrease.’ Only a person free of the need for approval could talk like that.”

I wish I was more like John. Not that I want to eat locusts, wear camel hair, or live in the wilderness. But I do wish that I didn’t seek so much approval from others. I wish I was a person free of the need for approval, but instead I am like so many who often find ourselves trying to “keep up with the Joneses.” So many of us spend money we don’t have to buy things we don’t need to impress people we don’t really like!

Too often, we put ourselves in compromising situations and are unwilling to take a stand, because we don’t want people to think we’re trying to be “holier-than-thou.” We compromise on our own standards to “get along” with others. We want our status to “increase” in the eyes of those around us. But I find that satisfaction in life remains elusive when I am seeking their approval.

So what needs to change? When I learn how to wholeheartedly say to God – “You must increase, and I must decrease!” Then I’ll find true satisfaction in life!

How have you gained some victory in this battle and determined to care more about God’s opinion than the applause of others?

— brian rushing

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Relationships

Building Up The Body

Missionaries strive for building up new believers so that the church in a given area can be strengthened. This is done through developing friendships and discipling new believers. In the process, sometimes a person who did not feel hand grasping another and pulling them up depicting the need for building up each otherthey had much worth in this world find new confidence and self-worth as they realize that God has given them talents and abilities. I have seen the effect of this in Honduras, and it is remarkable to watch. As a missionary, Christy was developing a friendship with a woman in the community. She was teaching her English and informally discipling her. Here is what she said about the young lady:

“She admired me extravagantly, beyond any deserving. And if I cared about her enough to single her out to spend long hours with her, well then, perhaps that secret person on the inside, who from shyness and deprivation had kept herself so covertly hidden all these years, was a woman worth knowing. This gave her the courage gradually to let her true self out of prison.

“Having tasted freedom, she was certain that the world of knowledge and beauty was hers for the taking. And because she gave me full credit for laying the world at her feet, she could not find enough ways to express her gratitude…. Once I unfolded a scrap of paper to find written on it:
        I love you for what you are making of me.
        I love you for what I am when I am with you.”

I wonder who, if anyone, would say this about me. Do I live in such a way that my encouragement and support is changing someone else’s life for the better? How about you? Dads, would your sons echo this sentiment due to how you are training them each day? Moms, can your daughters say this about you when you spend time with them? Do our friends or coworkers hold these feelings toward us?

Henry Blackaby wrote – Due to the essence of the church being koinonia (“intimate fellowship & community”), there should never be anyone in your church who is lonely.

Yet, there are many in our own churches who are lonely, who are struggling. In what way am I building up their lives and helping them to know the love of God through me? Life is all about relationships – an intimate relationship with God and intimate friendships with others. Am I building up others by teaching them and informally discipling them through my words, actions, and attitudes? Are you?

(Quotes from the book “Christy” by Catherine Marshall)

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Christian Living

The Need for Transformation

Autobots…Roll Out! That famous line of Optimus Prime! Oh how I used to love the Transformers!adapted logo to represent transformation “Transformers, More than meets the eye…(go ahead and sing the rest…“Autobots wage their battle to destroy the evil forces of the Decepticons…!”) The Transformers were robots “hidden in plain sight,” and interestingly enough, so am I. What I mean is that no one knows just by glancing at me whether I am a follower of Christ or not.

I would hope that given some time, if someone studied my life, my habits, or my actions, that they could figure it out. But more important than wanting people just to see me or know me as a Christian, I want to be a Transformer – one in the habit of transforming society.

Jesus calls me to be a transformer when He calls me salt & light. salt shakerThe ideas of being salt in a decaying world and light in a dark world – these are transformational ideas. Changing something dark into something light – transformation. Changing something rotten into something delicious – that’s a hard one to stomach when you think of the image – but that is true transformation. And that type of transformation truly is the power of God – to take something putrid (my sin-filled unrighteous life) and turn it into something to savor (righteous holy living).

Our role as Transformers is to raise the moral level of society – not by dictating new laws, but by helping more people to experience a transformation like us. The problem is that… “Religion today is not transforming people; rather it is being transformed by the people. It is not raising the moral level of society; it is descending to society’s own level, and congratulating itself that it has scored a victory because society is smilingly accepting its surrender” (A. W. Tozer).

Transformation is serious business and is not just about being in the right place at the right time. Because “Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian any more than going to the garage makes you a car” (L. J. Peter).

“What is God looking for in the world? Assistants? No. The gospel is not a help-wanted ad. It is a help-available ad. God is not looking for people to work for Him but people who let Him work mightily in and through them” (J.Piper). When we allow God to work in us, we will see the transforming power of God accomplishing impossible things through us. Join me as we get out there and function as transformers! (you can even sing the song to help “energize” yourself.)

How have you seen godly people that you know transforming their world?
Today would be a good day to encourage someone who you think has done a great job of transforming their world – as we need to encourage each other more often!

— brian rushing

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Christian Living

We’re Looking for a Few . . . Sick Men?

Uncle Sam pointing at you“The difference between Uncle Sam and Jesus Christ is that Uncle Sam won’t enlist you in his service unless you are healthy and Jesus won’t enlist you unless you are sick.”

But the amazing thing is that: “God is not only the doctor who prescribes [the proper medicine to cure our sickness]. He is the nurse who lifts up our powerless head and puts the spoon in our mouth. And He is the medicine” (John Piper).

What a great image of who God is to us – He is the One with the cure, He is the One who administers the cure, and He is the cure!

But have we cried out to Him for the cure? We might cry out, but what are we really crying about? I remember moments in childhood when I had disobeyed Mom or Dad, got caught, heard what my punishment would be (often a spanking!), and broke into tears. But was I really crying with repentance wanting a cure for my bad behavior?

“Many a criminal will weep when his sentence is read, not because he hasJudge's Gavel come to love righteousness, but because his freedom to do more unrighteousness is being taken away. That kind of weeping is not true evangelical repentance. And it does not lead to radical Christian obedience.

“The only true sorrow for not having holiness comes from a love for holiness, not just from fear of the consequences of not having it” (John Piper).

Too many times I was crying because I got caught… Not because I was disappointed in myself. How many times am I still unconcerned with righteousness as an adult?

How else but through a broken heart may Lord Christ enter in? –Oscar Wilde

So it is great that we have a cure, but what if you never cry out for it? What if you never develop that broken heart? You will be left empty. And I want to be filled to the top with life. I want to be completely satisfied. “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.” – Jesus

Thank You God for being the Cure for my sickness! And for helping me to realize that I was sick and in need of help.
Father, give me a love for your holiness!

— brian rushing