Would a God who took as much pleasure in evil as he did in good be a good God? Would a God who did not react adversely to evil in his world be morally perfect? Surely not. But it is precisely this adverse reaction to evil, which is a necessary part of moral perfection, that the Bible has in view when it speaks of God’s wrath.
–J. I. Packer
We don’t like to talk about God’s wrath. We only want to focus on God’s love. But a God of love necessarily must also be a God of wrath towards anything that attempts to hurt those He loves. It is the same in our own lives. We love our families, but if someone attempts to harm them, then we have a wrath that rises up within us against the attacker. God is no different, in fact, He is the ultimate expression of this as He is ultimate love. Because He loves me so much, He has intense wrath toward any sin I might do because that sin harms both me and others.
Stop trying to argue away God’s wrath, and instead embrace an understanding of His wrath as being a function of His great love for you and for all of His creation. As sin and evil attempt to harm His creation, His wrath rises up against them due to His great love!