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Relationships

Upwardly Mobile

As Americans, we are in a society that prides itself on climbing the ladder of success. We find ourselves striving to stay upwardly mobile – gaining more position, more status, more salary, and with all of it… more stress. And though we endure the stress, we tell ourselves that this must be the “good life.” We also might look down on others for not being the go-getters that we are (even though they sure seem less stressed).
ladder with blue sky and clouds behind representing our upwardly mobile desires
Those who aren’t striving to climb the ladder like us sometimes get labeled as lazy – like the mountain people of Appalachia in the book Christy:   “The highlanders were often accused of being lazy and shiftless. As I got to know them better, my conclusion was: relaxed, yes; shiftless, a few of them; greedy, scarcely ever. …”It’s today. I must be livin’.” summed up their philosophy well—a philosophy that aggressive people would spurn.

“Yet which is right? Human life is short. Each of us has limited number of years. So are we going to go through those so few years with little time for our family and friends, and unseeing eyes for the beauties around us concentrating on accumulating money and things when we have to leave them all behind anyway?

“I began to wonder, if the mountain values were not more civilized than civilization’s. At least I found the absence of greed and pushiness as refreshing as a long cool drink of sparkling mountain spring water.”

I have found this true in my own life as I have traveled to other countries in the past few years. At first I found it difficult to sit around and visit for so long when there was so much work to be done. Coming from a “Ready, Fire, Aim” society, it was difficult to sit still. But by the time my first week was complete, I was experiencing that same feeling of being refreshed just by seeing how relaxed they were and willing to enjoy one another. It also made me wonder if our civilized, upwardly mobile way was really as good as we say it is.

We are so busy scaling the ladder that we often do so to the neglect of our family. We work hard to accumulate so much stuff that we can’t take with us. The only real treasures that I will take with me when I die are my relationships. Maybe some of the values that have disappeared from our culture are less civilized that those of our great-grandparents or those of cultures that we do not consider as sophisticated as our own.

I pray that I will learn contentment in Christ and in my relationships, and that I will not allow society to push me toward being upwardly mobile just ‘cause everyone else says that is what the good life is all about.

Have you found an effective way to fight against the culture’s pressure to focus on the ladder? How do you fight to focus more on building relationships?

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Worship

Bored in Church

Church is boring. At least that’s what a lot of people think.

the word "bored" written over and over again repeticiously

Have you ever been bored in church? (If you are thinking “Yes, it was while you were preaching,” then just keep those nasty comments to yourself!). Certainly we have all had moments when we were bored in church and found ourselves counting the number of lights in the sanctuary or daydreaming or making a “to do” list or snoring in our sermon-induced sleep. Plenty of people probably have wanted to say something along these next lines but just weren’t willing to be this honest:

Parent: “Well, how did you like Sunday School?”
Child: “I didn’t like it a bit. It was horrid. …Mr. Bell made an awfully long prayer. I would have been dreadfully tired before he got through if I hadn’t been sitting by that window. But it looked right out on the Lake… so I just gazed at that and imagined all sorts of splendid things.”
P: “You shouldn’t have done anything of the sort. You should have listened to Mr. Bell.”
C: “But he wasn’t talking to me. He was talking to God and he didn’t seem to be very much interested in it, either. I think he thought God was too far off to make it worthwhile.”

Ha! Out of the mouths of babes! I’ve had those same feelings before, too! But also I wonder how often do my prayers seem contrived and disinterested like Mr. Bell’s? I want a powerful prayer life that is focused on a relationship with God, rather than just using Him as an impersonal wishlist provider.

The child ends with – “I said a little prayer myself, though. There was a long row of white birches hanging over the lake and the sunshine fell down through them, ‘way, ‘way down, deep into the water. …It gave me a thrill and I just said, ‘Thank you for it, God,’ two or three times.”

God, may my prayers be like that – may they flow out of me as naturally as I breathe this air, and may it all be due to me seeing how You are working around me! Help me to never be disinterested in you or feel that you are too far away to be worthwhile.

(Quoted dialogue written about 100 years ago in the book “Anne of Green Gables.” Guess church has had the potential for being boring for a very long time.)

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Relationships

The Breach

breach (defined): a tear, rupture, gap, or rift.

a serious crack, or breach, in a concrete wallEver had a breach in a relationship?
Ever had a friendship that was torn or ruptured?

In almost every long-lasting, human relationship there will come a time when we find ourselves at odds with the other person, and we will encounter a breach. The question is what will we do, once the breach has occurred? Too often I don’t want to be the one to reconcile the relationship, especially if they were the ones who started the breach. (And of course, in our eyes, they always are the ones most at fault – it couldn’t have been my fault, right?)

“No Christian ever has a right to sever any relationship with anybody out of anger…or even injustice.”

Two missionaries to the Appalachian mountain people, Alice and David, are having a discussion about a breach. So often I find myself with the attitude of David instead of the attitude of Alice.

“Miss Alice’s voice was mild. “I’m not passing any judgment on the rightness or wrongness of any part of it. All I want to point out is that there’s now a breach between Ozias and you, so it’s up to you to take the first step towards righting it.”
“Why me? He’s the one who was wrong.”
“David, I’ve been back here in the Cove a little longer than you. One of the worst evils around here is nursing grudges, sometimes for years. Retaliating evil for evil is considered a virtue, the mark of strong character. Here with this Ozias situation, you’ve got a ready-made chance to demonstrate a better way: the strength of forgiveness.”
“I fail to see how my forgiving Ozias for being a lazy bum would demonstrate anything to him and the other men except weakness?
“David, no Christian ever has a right to sever any relationship with anybody out of anger, [wounded pride], or even injustice, no matter how much he disapproves of someone’s actions. It’s our place to demonstrate reconciliation – not judgment or revenge or retaliation. That’s God’s business, not ours.”

Alice is right. God has given us the ministry of reconciliation. Yet, our own hurt pride and anger over the injustice done to us keeps us from demonstrating the strength of forgiveness. We are glad we have received forgiveness from God after continuously offending Him, but we are slow to give it to others. Why are we who are Christians so slow to repair the breach even if we didn’t cause it?

Her voice grew softer. “Beware the chasms in thy life, David. Sooner or later [you might] fall down in the chasm thyself.”

Are there any breached relationships that you need to start repairing?
For those who have repaired a breach, any advice on how you started?

(Quotes from the book “Christy” by Catherine Marshall)

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Christian Living

Where Roots Are Meant To Be

“I was invited to Miss Alice Henderson’s…[in her] there was an effortless beauty…a harmony that seemed to come from having one’s roots down in the place where the roots were meant to be.”

row of majestic old oak trees with great root systemsI want my roots down in the place where roots were meant to be. I want to be known as a stable, rooted person…one who is not given to bending with the changing wind, but who is firmly planted and confident and content in who I am. When I am able to accept myself as a person loved by God, it changes how I view and accept others.

“There was something else I had noticed too: an initial acceptance of herself as she was and [also] of other people with their [shortcomings]. And so she did as little scolding or criticizing of others for their foolish behavior or their sins as anyone I had ever known. It was not that she was willing to compromise with wrongdoing…just that she was a long step ahead of wasting emotional energy on fretting. And she never put pressure on the rest of us to accept her opinions. The secret of her calm seemed to be that she was not trying to prove anything. She was—that was all. And her stance toward life seemed to say: God is—and that is enough.”

That is how I want to be – able to accept others with their shortcoming because I realize my own failures and yet I also know that I still accepted and loved by the King of the Universe. I want to have a simplicity of life to be able to say:
God is—and that is enough.

Are you content in who you are in Christ? Or are you still struggling to accept you?
It will be hard to accept others until you are able to accept yourself.
Remember these words from a Matthew West song – that when regret and defeat try to remind you of what hold they have on you – tell them…

“Hello, my name is… Child of the One True King.
I’ve been saved, I’ve been changed, I have been set free.”

When we hold onto this truth, we are set free from so much weight of trying to impress and keep up appearances. We just relax in Him. And that let’s others relax when they are with us.

Let’s put our roots down where they were meant to be – in the foundation of Christ, knowing that we are Adopted Children of the One True King of the Universe!

(Quotes take from the book “Christy” by Catherine Marshall)

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Christian Living

The Good Enough Life

After Katrina came through in ‘05, I was given the opportunity to rebuild my library by looking through boxes of generously donated books. One of the books I received was Christy by Catherine Marshall. I had no interest in the “girlie-sounding” book. But being bored one day, I picked it up and began to read. I was quickly surprised, because I had no idea the great Christian themes that I would find within its pages.

rustic lantern attached to a wooden door frameThe story is about Christy, a young woman who chooses to go into the Appalachian Mountains to do mission work among the mountain people who lived there. On considering why she had come to the mountains to do missions… “My mind went back to my life in Asheville. Teas and receptions and ladies’ genteel talk. Church on Sunday mornings. Shopping and dress fittings. Dance-parties and picnics in the summer. A good enough life, only what did it all mean?”

Do you ever feel like all you have is a “good enough life”?
I want something more than good enough. I want excitement, joy, blessing, full contentment, abundant life.
But too often I settle for “good enough.”

Christy continued: “Where was it leading? There must be more to life than that. Or is there…? What was I born for, after all? I have to know. If I stayed at home…I don’t think I ever would know. Mother and father didn’t understand my eagerness, why I had wanted to come before I’d graduated. But I couldn’t wait forever.”

How many times have I told God “No” and kept myself from going on the adventures He was calling me to begin? There is always an excuse we can find. God is calling us into an abundant life full of those things that I said I wanted – excitement, joy, blessing, and full contentment. I hope you won’t wait forever to go on the adventure that God is calling you into. When we answer His call on our lives, we will find true, abundant life full of explosive joy.

Until then, when you fill your days and life with things that are good enough, I hope you will realize that good enough is not sufficient, because He wants you to discover abundant life in Him. That won’t always be safe, secure, or full of material wealth, but it will be exciting and bring you full contentment!


— brian rushing