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Christian Living

Hypocrisy is dangerous. Instead let’s help each other with compassion.

Hypocrisy is a common theme in the Bible. Jesus makes several statements about hypocrisy against the Pharisees. But one of the most well-known statements He gives is from the Sermon on the Mount. And it is for all of us:

How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.

photo of finger pointing at you, symbolizing hypocrisy

We are operating out of hypocritical judgment when we condemn others who make the same mistake that we struggle with. And this is what Jesus is calling us to avoid. It is not a new struggle. We find hypocrisy readily available in the first book of the Bible.

I’m always amazed at the hypocrisy in the story of Judah and Tamar in Genesis 38. In that passage we are clearly shown how easily we can become unrighteously angry over another person’s sin even though we are in the midst of our own similar sin. Judah is incredulous over the sin of Tamar when he finds out that she has slept with someone to whom she is not married. He is infuriated at her unfaithfulness.

But just like Judah, we can become so good at judging others for their sin, while finding plenty of reasons to justify our own. Instead of having compassion for another person who has fallen into the trap of sin, we cover up our own sin and bluster on about how bad theirs is.

 

statue of lady justice - reminding us to not judge with hypocrisy

We also see king David do this when the prophet Nathan confronted him with the story of the man whose precious lamb was killed unfairly. David was outraged that a person in his kingdom would treat another person so terribly to gain something that wasn’t his. And yet David had just done the very thing by taking the life of Uriah to cover up his sin with Bathsheba. Hypocrisy.

Now back to Judah. Judah was infuriated to hear that his widowed daughter-in-law Tamar had become pregnant. Little did he know that he was the one that had gotten her pregnant. While on a business trip, he had met and slept with a woman he thought was a prostitute. But it was actually Tamar in disguise. When he got ready to have her killed for her unfaithfulness, she showed him the articles that he had left with her, thus pointing out to him his own unfaithfulness. His outrage turned to shame. Due to his own hypocrisy.

Before we get too incredulous at these extreme examples, let’s realize that we also struggle with engaging in hypocrisy. We do this when we struggle with our own impure thoughts, but condemn others for their sexual sin when their sin is made public. We do this when we struggle with our own covetousness and greed, but condemn others when their sin of greed is made public. We so often complain loudly about the splinter in others’ eyes when we have a log in ours.

Certainly we who follow Christ have the right and a responsibility to hold each other accountable for sin, but let’s be sure that we are also examining ourselves and that we are avoiding harsh judgment toward others. We are called to be compassionate in our accountability, realizing that we are all sinners saved by grace.image of one person helping another up a mountain - no hypocrisy, only help

Do you need to remove any judgmental thoughts or any unrighteous condemnation from your life? We all still struggle with sin. Instead of condemning each other for it, let’s work to lovingly help each other out of it.

I’ll help you. I hope you will also help me.

Father God,

Thank you for Christian brothers and sisters who love one another so much that instead of condemning each other for sin, we are trying to find ways to help each other out. When the battle gets too strong for each of us on our own, give us hearts of compassion to run to the aid of each other without judgment and condemnation.

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Missions

What Does a Dead Church Look Like? A Dilapidated Building?

picture of an abandoned church building that is falling apart, perhaps what some would call a dead church

I have always appreciated this description of a Dead Church that I ran across a few years ago:

A painter was asked to paint a picture of a dead church. What the client expected was probably the picture of an old ruin that had been taken over by vines of ivy and has been left in disrepair, such as the remains of some Gothic cathedral such as are seen in France or Italy. The painter, however, took a different approach, and painted a picture that was like a sermon. On his canvas he painted the inside of a cozy, well-furnished church: upholstered pews, a large organ, a beautiful wooden pulpit, and a congregation whose appearance indicated sophistication and prosperity. But over in the corner near the exit, he painted the picture of a box bearing the inscription “FOR MISSIONS,” and covering over the slot for contributions you could see a large, undisturbed cobweb. The painter knew that a church that cares nothing for missions is dead (or is dying), even if there are plenty of people in attendance.

James tells us to “Be Doers of the Word and not Hearers only.”
If you are involved in a healthy church, you’ve heard that you should be involved in missions. So have you done anything about it? It doesn’t have to be missions overseas. There are people who live near you and work beside you who God has placed near you for a reason.

Don’t be so busy with your own life that you miss the very ones that God has brought into your pathway, so that you can be the hands and feet and voice of Christ to these who are hurting and need to know Jesus.

Pray that God would break your heart for the people around you who need to know Him.

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Relationships

The Choice to Be A Reconciler or A Rejecter

Everything we say has a possibility of helping people feel either reconciled or rejected.
We can either heal or hurt with our words.

three matches burning to indicate it just takes a small spark to start a fireA forest fire can be started with a small spark, and the tongue can be that spark in someone’s life. Though the tongue is only a small part of the body, it is a key to producing words. And so with that small muscle, we can set someone’s world on fire – we can tear them down or we can build them up.

tobymac sings that it’s crazy, amazing that we can turn a heart with the words we say. That hope can live or die due to what we speak, so we should speak life to others.

Are you using your words to build others up – being a reconciler? or do you spend more time tearing others down?
God has committed to me and to you… He has entrusted to us… the ministry of reconciliation. What will you do with this ministry He has handed off to you?

Matt Chandler states it this way: Our understanding of God’s love for us, despite the fact that we don’t deserve it, enables us to love others in spite of themselves. Affection for the Lord leads to affection for others, resulting in outdoing one another in service. It makes us ask ourselves questions like:

  • How can I be concerned about you and your needs?
  • Why shouldn’t I take the farthest parking spot?
  • How about if I take the seat that’s has a blocked view?
  • What if I lose so you can Win?
  • How can I disadvantage myself for your advantage?
  • What would it mean to consider you more significant than me?
  • “Compassion linked to the gospel is compassion that goes beyond merely observing hurting people; it sees hurting people and realizes that Jesus loves them immensely. Ultimately, then, it’s not our compassion but the compassion of Jesus that fuels and sustains our desire to act on others’ behalf. When We remember how gracious and compassionate Christ has been to us, our compassion is as sustainable as our remembrance of the gospel” (Matt Chandler).

    So how strong is your remembrance of the gospel?
    How well do you remember how Christ reconciled you to the Father?
    Are you ready to help reconcile others to the Father – even those whom you never had a relationship with before, those to whom you wouldn’t typically be with, because Christ loves them and calls you to it? He is calling you to be relationally intentional toward others so that you can share with them the word of reconciliation… the truth that they can find salvation in Jesus Christ – the transforming Savior.

    Because God has radically transformed us, we shared a common bond deeper than anything that can divide us. Let us teach others about that deep, deep love. Become a relationally intentional reconciler.

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    Relationships

    Things We Get Wrong, Part 3… Inviting People To Church

    When I started out in youth ministry, I had the idea that I should invite any and every teenager who I could find to come check out our youth worship services. So I did. And some of them even came. And some of them had not grown up in church. And some of them were a bit rough around the edges.

    Therefore, I was quickly taken aside and told by a couple of the members of the church, “Be careful what teenagers you invite into this church, because some don’t know how to behave in church, and they don’t need to be here until they learn how to behave.”

    WHAT??

    sign stating "wrong way, go back" to signify things we get wrong

    Were they serious?
    Unfortunately, yes.
    And as a young minister who was about 25 years younger than them, I didn’t know what to say. (Though I’d have some choice words for such a comment said to me today!)

    “They don’t know how to behave.”
    “They shouldn’t be allowed here until they can behave.”
    So who is supposed to teach them how to behave in church if not the church?

    Of course, I disagree with the whole “in church” mentality anyway. People are the church, not the building at a certain address that you find yourself “in” on a given Sunday. But apart from that technicality, when we have these types of attitudes, we have gone back to the system of the Pharisees that says: “You clean up your act, and then you can come to know God.”

    Instead we should be living in the system of Christ that says, “You come as you are – with your sin – and let Jesus embrace you and remove your sin – then He will help to clean you up.”

    Which attitude draws people?
    Which attitude is compassionate?
    Which attitude shows love?

    Jesus drew people to Himself, was compassionate, was loving… even to the outcast and the sinner. How is it that Christians are so often seen as people who push people away and are not known for compassion or love? How do we get this so wrong?

    We are told to imitate Jesus. So what does that mean? It means we should be people of grace, forgiveness, and joy so that we help to show what Jesus is like – the One who loves deeply and constantly pursues us to transform us into His likeness.

    I’m glad I didn’t fall into the trap that these two people set for me, and instead kept on inviting new teens – even the ones who didn’t yet know how to behave! I guess I’m still learning how to “behave” as well! And that is fine by me.

    Now go out and invite someone to be part of your faith community.

    Don’t invite them “into” a church building. Invite them into church – into the relationship of family that it is.

    And don’t worry about whether they know how to behave. When Jesus gets hold of them, He’ll take care of cleaning them up the way He wants them to be. You and me… we’d just mess it up!

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    Relationships

    How Far Does Your Compassion Go?

    How Long Has It Been Since You…
         Took the time to go see someone who lives alone?
         Wrote a letter to someone who crossed your mind?
         Read to someone who was unable to read for themselves?
         Encouraged someone who was having a hard time in life?

    Every one of us can do something compassionate to encourage someone else.
    But how far will our compassion go?

    One of my favorite stories is the one where four friends pick up their paralyzed friend to get him to the One they heard is a healer. They’ve heard of this miracle worker and probably even knew someone else He has healed. So they go to their friend, tell him the plan, and start making their way to the house where the miracle man is supposed to be. They weren’t going to let anything stop them, because they knew that this Healer could change their friend’s life.

    But when they arrived they couldn’t get in the door.
    So they ripped through the roof.

    What?
    Seriously?
    They tore up another person’s home to get their friend to this healer?
    They must have truly believed this was going to work to be willing to go to that extreme.

    What would have happened if I was holding one corner of the mat? Or if you were?
    Would we have told our friend that we’d try to bring him to Jesus another day?
    When our other friend said – “Hey, let’s go get some rope and some tools and we’ll rip through the roof and lower him down to the Healer!”, Would you have said – “No way, we can’t destroy this guy’s house. We’ll have to fix it or pay to have it repaired. Let’s just come back another day.”?

    Or would you have been the first one to grab an axe to start busting a hole in the roof?

    I think it all depends on how much we believe that this Healer, Jesus, can change lives.
    If we truly believe Jesus can change the life of our friend, then we are much more likely to go to any cost to get them to Jesus. Even if it means destroying someone’s physical property to get our friend the healing that he needs.

    But it might be that we examine our own lives and realize that we don’t seem changed that much, so is it really that important to get others to Jesus? We can do it later, and even if we don’t… then what does it really matter? If we have not been radically changed by the Healer… if we have not become new creatures because of what Jesus has done in our lives… then we will not be very passionate about getting others to Jesus.

    We are passionate about music, we are passionate about the vehicles we drive, we are passionate about sports, we are passionate about politics, we are passionate about making money. When are we going to get passionate about the only treasure that we can take with us when we die… other people?

    When will we become compassionate about those for whom God is passionate and wants to heal?
    When will we believe that God really can (and does) change lives?

    What do you think… How can someone get and keep the type of compassion the four friends had?