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How To Market and Sell Jesus

When I first read the quote that I have included below, the words definitely resonated with me. It is because I feel the same way. I know people who love Jesus. I know people who want to share the joy they have found in Jesus with others. But there is a tension in how to do so. You might be one who also struggles with this. We have a hard time doing that thing that preachers call “sharing your faith.” When we are instructed to do this, we feel like we are being asked to go sell a product to people who haven’t asked for the sales pitch. stuffed penguins at a carnival booth representing our feelings of trying to market and sell JesusWe feel like telemarketers on a cold call or like carnival hawkers trying to entice a stranger to come win a stuffed penguin. And so we get awkward trying to market and sell Jesus.

But Jesus doesn’t need us to be His marketing agent nor a salesman for Him. Instead, we just need to let our honesty about our joy and belief in Him to flow out of us naturally. We just need to change our conversations slightly to point people in the direction of Jesus. Jesus can take care of the rest. Instead of becoming the pushy salesman or the marketing agent trying to come up with a cute jingle that’ll “hook” someone into wanting the “Product,” we just need to be honest with people about our feelings for and about Jesus. Jesus doesn’t need your marketing and sales skills. He is way more capable than you of drawing people to Himself. Here is an illustration of the point from Miller:

…when I share my faith, I feel like a network marketing guy…. Some of my friends who aren’t Christians think that Christians are insistent and demanding and intruding, but that isn’t the case. Those folks are the squeaky wheel. Most Christians have enormous respect for the space and freedom of others; it is only that they have found a joy in Jesus they want to share. There is the tension.

In a recent radio interview I was sternly asked by the host, who did not consider himself a Christian, to defend Christianity. I told him that I couldn’t do it, and moreover, that I didn’t want to defend the term. He asked me if I was a Christian, and I told him yes. “Then why don’t you want to defend Christianity?” he asked, confused. I told him I no longer knew what the term meant. Of the hundreds of thousands of people listening to his show that day, some of them had terrible experiences with Christianity; they may have been yelled at by a teacher in a Christian school, abused by a minister, or browbeaten by a Christian parent. To them, the term Christianity meant something that no Christian I know would defend. By fortifying the term, I am only making them more and more angry. I won’t do it. Stop ten people on the street and ask them what they think of when they hear the word Christianity, and they will give you ten different answers. How can I defend a term that means ten different things to ten different people?

I told the radio show host that I would rather talk about Jesus and how I came to believe that Jesus exists and that he likes me. The host looked back at me with tears in his eyes. When we were done, he asked me if we could go get lunch together. He told me how much he didn’t like Christianity but how he had always wanted to believe Jesus was the Son of God.

So how do we market and sell Jesus to others? We don’t. Instead we strive to live out an imitation of Christ in our lives and we honestly share the joy we have discovered in the fact that Jesus likes us. We can trust Jesus to be big enough to handle the rest.

How have you had similar experiences with feeling like Miller, like his friends that thought Christians were pushy, or like the radio host?

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Cold-Hearted Smiles

“I realized why these mountain people were shy with strangers. They had never learned the citified arts of hiding feelings or of smiling when the heart was cold. Friendship was dangerous to them because they had built up no protection against it. Once they let you in it must be into the deep places of the heart.”

Isn’t it sad that we have become so “citified” that this describes us to a “T”? We know how to put up a facade. We can hide our feelings so that people believe us when we tell them we are “fine.” We have the ability to smile at those toward whom we really have a cold, icy heart. We have built up walls and barriers so that we have protection against our hearts being hurt by others. That is why we seldom let them into our lives. And we men are more guarded than women.

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Our hearts long for a deep connection with others. Some of us might deny this, in that we don’t like the idea of “longing” for anything, but in reality, we have simply trained the idea of needing deep connections out of us. We tell ourselves we are self-sufficient and do not need anyone or anything. But if we will are honest, we know that we all want friends with whom we don’t have to put up a false front.

So we have this heart’s cry for depth, but we instead settle for casual superficiality. We’ve learned how to do it so well, which means our deep need for close connections goes unmet.

If we would be willing to take the chance to reach out to someone for friendship with transparency, we might just find that it is there for the taking. Knowing that there exists the possibility of being hurt makes it hard to take that step of faith, but the potential rewards make the risk worth it. We all need at least one friend with whom you can fully be yourself, no longer having to keep up your guard, having them accept you “warts & all,” willing to listen to you laugh on a good day and complain on a miserable one.

“I came to know a quality of friendship which bears little resemblance to the casualness of our relationships back home. The mountain type of friendship was a tie of substance between people with a sort of [brave faithfulness] about it. It had to do with a time in the past when there was no more final bond than a man’s pledged word; when every connection of blood and family was firm and strong, forged in the past, stretching into the future.”

I want relationships with substance and depth. We all do. So what will it take? Us risking the possibility of someone stepping on us and breaking our trust. But finding that true friend will be worth it. Are you ready to open up and let someone into the deep places of your life? Probably not – at least not yet. But consider taking that first step – begin being more transparent with a few of your closest friends and see how your relationships begin changing. The ones that respond with similar transparency will give you a clue as to who is ready to be a deep friend to you.

(Quotes from the book “Christy” by Catherine Marshall)